You wanna fight?

It seems like practically every conversation ends with and argument. I had a very bad day yesterday - no one's fault, nothing new to be irritated about. But my head was just in a bad place. My wife was worried and kept asking me why - all of the questions were the last thing I wanted to hear. I guess that sometimes, you just can't come to terms together. you just have to be away from each other for a while...

Get Away! Or Get-away?

We are getting ready to go on a Memorial Day week end trip to a place 2 hrs away. I have been doing my best to stay focused, grounded, and secure. the same Qs and concerns exist, but I am managing to breathe through them - not getting too far ahead, and not regretting the fubars... My wife seems better too. So am I better? Or is my wife better? Which better comes first?
Whatever the case, if I listen, don't engage or escalate, it is better. Now we don't want to get away from each other, and a getaway is a mutually beneficial time together. Hopefully.

Hmmm...

So time has gone on... and I am realizing more and more that I can't fix anything when something ails in my wife. She is a very sensitive, loving person, and has many fears about me and my stability. I think she is attacking when she is really saying that my behavior or my disposition seems insecure. Had a detailed conversation with another husband (AH) last night. He was in the middle of how he and his wife don't see eye to eye, when my wife came in the room yelling...

Just be quiet.

I was listening to my wife tonight. It doesn't really matter what she was saying - it could have been interpreted as abusive. My initial urge was to fight back, but I remained silent, and said that I was sorry and that she was probably right. She deserved my humble response. I put her in a position that I knew might make her uncomfortable - it doesn't matter that it was something that shouldn't make her uncomfortable. All that matters is that it did and I had to dignify her feelings.